Uniform Horror

posted April 16th, 2013, 2:14 am


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March 10th, 2013, 12:25 am

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So, the internet can argue all it wants about it. My definitions are as follows;

Sex - your physical anatomy.
Gender - the societal construct that says if an action or item is manly or girly. Can also mean your "brain sex". Drives me nuts when people say gender when they mean sex, and likewise.

Transvestite - gets off on wearing the other clothes. Generally no effort spent on actually "passing", or truly looking like the other sex.
Drag King/Queen - a mockery of the other sex through garish overdisplay. And the worst thing to happen to trans* people, ever. Too much of our society hears trans* and thinks it means TV/DQ. Leads youth, like Tony, like me, to hate themselves for associating their minds with abnormality.

Crossdresser - someone who occasionally wears the clothes of the other gender as an expression of self. No interest in actually changing physical body on a permanent basis. Unfortunately slandered by the TV/DQ association.

Transgender/transexual - someone who intends to, tries to, or successfully transitions from one physical sex to another. Someone who wants nothing more than to be a normal person, who wants to just blend in, to be loved, as the other sex. To be treated and respected like anyone born of that sex.

I wish I could walk into every fucking high school on this earth and staple that memo on to the front door. So that kids everyone can know that they don't have to hate themselves, so that they can know that they aren't monsters.

If you are one of those kids, you should know how much you are loved. There is so much out there for you. Never spend a second hating yourself, or allowing others to hate you.

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Following a massive backlash, it has been requested that I add in a bit more information.
The primary focus of the hostility is that I express the above in a gender binary manner. For the purposes of this story, this will remain true. It has been, ahem, requested, that I add in that gender is not a binary line though. There are many who fit happily somewhere between male/female, boy/girl. Gender is a spectrum, not a binary.
That all said, for the purposes of Wildflowers, it will be sticking primarily to that spectrum, the heteronormative male/female gender constructs.

The second major backlash is about how I say that TV/DQ are terrible for trans* people. True, TV/DQ are accepted under the trans* banner, though there is some division in the community as to why. Here is the simplest explanation from my terms;
Transgender/transsexual is, to me, an identity. It is not flagrant or flippant, but the innermost core of a person.
Transvestites, to me, are about the sexual satisfaction of wearing clothes of the sex opposite of your birth sex (binary, yes). It isn't your core being, it is, from my viewpoint, fetish. There is nothing fundamentally wrong about this. The issue I run in to is when people questioning themselves see TV people in the media and do not know that this is not the same as TG/TS according to my above definition.
Likewise with the drag community. There is nothing wrong with drag, in and of itself. However, when this is your only representation of the trans* community it can be very hard to be self accepting as 'normal'. To see only TV/DQ and think, "this is what it means to be trans? I don't want to be like that" is a huge stumbling block for many trans* youth.

In conclusion, these are all personal opinions. There are many counterpoints that could be made, and I invite them in a constructive manner. Wildflowers, though, is developed based primarily on the gender binary and quest for heteronormality.

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April 16th, 2013, 11:02 am

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The meaning of words and explanations are important because they convey ideas and understanding. When words and definitions mean different things to different people, the meanings become lost and ideas are difficult to understand. For what it's worth, I will offer my commentary superimposed upon what is already posted. Remember though, there may be a difference of culture and understanding of these matters in that AnnaKrog is a Canadian from Alberta (?), and I am an American Buckeye. But Wildflowers is AnnaKrog's territory, so she is the one who ultimately " calls the shots " here.

Sex - [When two humans copulate. Sex leads to a way of knowing your sexual orientation.]

[Gender-Wither you are a man or a woman, or a boy or a girl, or somewhere in between.]

[Birth Gender]-Your physical anatomy.

Gender [Binary] - The societal construct that says if an action or item is manly or girly.

[Gender Identity-Your knowing in your mind, heart and soul what your correct gender is.] Can also mean your "brain [gender]". Drives me nuts when people say gender when they mean sex, and [vice versa].

[Gender Expression-The outward showing by dress, grooming, or other actions to show other people your correct gender identity.]

Transvestite/[Fetishist] - Gets off on wearing the other [gender's] clothes. Generally no effort spent on actually "passing", or truly looking like the other [gender].

Drag King/Queen/[GenderBender] - A mockery of the other [opposite gender] through garish overdisplay. And the worst thing to happen to trans* people, ever. Too much of our society hears trans* and thinks it means TV/DQ/[GenderBender]. Leads youth, like Tony, like me, to hate themselves for associating their minds with abnormality.

Crossdresser - Someone who occasionally wears the clothes of the other gender as an expression of self. No interest in actually changing physical body on a permanent basis. Unfortunately slandered by the TV/DQ association.

Transgender/Transsexual - Someone who intends to, tries to, or successfully transitions from one physical [gender] to another. Someone who wants nothing more than to be a normal person, who wants to just blend in, to be loved, as the[ir correct gender]. To be treated and respected like anyone born of that [gender].

[Gender Fluid/Gender Queer/Bigenderist-Someone who wants to or needs to transition to their correct gender, but can not fully do so because of personal, family, or societal circumstances or pressures. So they are forced to change back and forth between the genders, or be gender non-conforming.]

I hope this helps give another perspective on what we are talking about. My thoughts and explanations are not meant to be presumptuous in any way. As soon as you understand the concepts regarding transgender issues, you should reach out and help educate others, especially ones who are suffering because of not knowing about what it means to be a transgender person in today's confused society.

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April 26th, 2013, 10:00 am

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Funny, never liked 'sex' as a verb - lacks the emotional impact the term 'love' should have. I prefer 'non-verbal exchange of information through contact which may or may not include emotional expression of support' but that may be too long. I just think the word 'sex' has been worn down and overused and brings, to many, images of just sex without emotions or respect.
Or maybe I just hate labels...?

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August 15th, 2013, 6:41 pm

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Panel 5, I'm not sure how what nationality the Benrt would be, let alone how to say it :P

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August 15th, 2013, 6:54 pm

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@wraithoffire: I assume Swedish or something. They like to smush consonants into words, right? What do I know, I learn everything I know about that country from the Olypmics and Ikea.

I fear you and I have a strange co-dependency. I feed your sickening need to find my flaws, and you feed my sickening need to have my flaws corrected! Though, I guess so long as it works, right?

I really hate the speech bubbles on this page. Too bad it'll probably never be fixed because of the hell this page put me through two weeks ago.

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June 11th, 2014, 5:53 pm

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Further to my pre-registration comments a few strips back, I'd like to add a clarification:

The binary works for most people, most of the time (and obviously is essential for conventional plug-and-socket procreation). There may be variations in the biological aspects of a person's gender (karyotype, genotype, phenotype, biochemistry, brain gender [which may be an aspect of biochemistry]) and their gender attributes (most of which are socio-cultural: mannerisms, the easily modifiable bits of appearance, clothing etc.) may be all over the place, but most people will have enough on one side of the invisible fence to be regarded as belonging on it.

As for the various definitions given above, I'd largely agree, with one slight modification: I've always regarded drag as crossdressing for the purposes of performance. While the majority of known drag performers adopt the hideous and cringeworthy OTT mockery of femininity, there's a small subset who aim for a more realistic portrayal of femininity. Perhaps they're similar personality types to those who in centuries gone by would have predominently been chosen to play female roles in serious theatre before females were allowed to act?

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