Bloodwork, again

posted April 3rd, 2014, 2:01 am


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August 17th, 2013, 4:55 am

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Here's the deal.

I don't want any of you self medicating hormones. There are a lot of things that can go wrong.
I got torn to shreds on reddit when I said that, and I don't care.
I've met trans* people, YOUNG trans people, who did permanent damage to their livers with improper dosing or other complications. They can never take hormones again because of it. And that's not even close to the worst that can happen.
I'm not saying it will happen if you self-medicate. But there is that chance.
Would you let a friend take that chance?

Make me a deal - if you need hormones that badly, you tell me, and give me two weeks to try to get in contact with a free counsellor for your area. So far, I'm batting 100% on this, so I feel pretty confident that I can actually help you get a REAL doctor. If I can't find someone for free, or at least affordable, then you can go ahead. I won't be happy about it, mind you, but at least you can tell me you tried.
I mean it.
And if I'm no longer with you, I have made my account available to someone who CAN get those resources for you. So no excuses.

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April 3rd, 2014, 3:26 am

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I'm trying to get proper treatment, but so far I'm stuck at the talking part and it doesn't feel like there's much progress.
They keep asking me to justify why other people act the way they do, like why my mom never calls.
we never had a lot of contact, to me there's nothing strange about her not calling (or me not calling her)
But they keep trying to make me answer on why and it feels like they won't be happy until I pretend to have frequent conversations with my mom or something.
not really getting any better that they've made appointments for me and then haven't been there for them 3 times so far, hours of trainride and time off work for nothing :(

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April 3rd, 2014, 3:43 am

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@A: It sounds like they are either gatekeeping or have serious concerns about your social/mental wellbeing. While the physical aspect is what transpeople focus on because it is the only aspect people can see, it is secondary to being internally ok.

I'm not saying that you are borked in the brain! I am not saying that your therapist isn't being a tool. But I will say to everyone that the psychological aspect of being transgender is very important to tackle. It is why I spend so much time showing what is in Annie's head, her doubts and concerns, instead of just how others see her.

It does sound to me like your therapists probably aren't working in your best interests though. Any time they skip appointments like that, they are disrespecting you. And you deserve better than that. Even if they do have legitimate concerns, these should be addressed by someone who actually cares enough to show up.

For what it matters? Relationship with family is a pretty stupid benchmark. The most autobiographical part of Annie's life is her mother, my mother. And I have no relationship with her at all. So for them to focus on why she doesn't talk to you, instead of why you don't talk to her, is not right.

If there is anything you think I can do to help, or even just be here to talk to, let me know.

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April 3rd, 2014, 6:24 am

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@GreenKrog: I guess I just needed to vent.
And no I don't believe there is anything wrong with my social or mental wellbeing either.

*hugs*

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