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posted April 15th, 2014, 2:01 am


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August 24th, 2013, 2:07 am

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Also no comment.

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April 15th, 2014, 1:45 pm

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...a girl's best friend. Im so glad she has Lexi

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April 15th, 2014, 2:01 pm

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@stickygirl: Psst. That other girl is Andrea.

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April 15th, 2014, 2:58 pm

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Faceplant...k... but glad she has Lexi as well

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April 15th, 2014, 4:11 pm

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"Normal wishes it was me"... I like that saying. There's no such thing as normal right? Whats the right kind of normal, and whats the wrong kind? and if it did exist, what is normal anyways? A kinder word for "stablized?" which I don't get at all...

Maybe I'm overthinking this? Ah whatever, I'm just glad Annie got friends on her side <333

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April 15th, 2014, 4:56 pm

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@MediocreArts: http://whatsnormalanyway.net/
"What's normal anyways" is a web comic about a transman.

If you want to talk overthinking, here is my line of reasoning (and honestly, I overthink every sentence I write in Wildflowers).

Normal is to be in accordance with a set of rules or principles, conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern. Basically, in human terms, it is 'normal' to have five fingers on each hand, a single set of reproductive organs, a mind that is free of schizophrenia, etc.
In sociological terms, it is adherence to the average of society. For example, it is normal to have black, brown, red or blonde hair - it is not normal to have blue hair. The average of North American society is to have a generally congruent gender expression to your primary sex.

However, in this case, when Annie is talking about feeling normal, even if it the bad kind of normal - this is a way of connecting to horrible things that happen that was, while not on the majority side, still considered prevalent enough to be normal. To be sexually assaulted can be considered normal as it occurs with something sick like 1 in 3 people. So what Annie is saying that, she can't be normal in the good way (to be physically loved by someone who cares about her) but she could find normalcy in being sexually assaulted.

This particular strive to normalcy can be found in a large many of transgender people, and to a greater extent, in people suffering depression and self worth problems. To fit in with a group of people, even if it is a people who have trauma, is better than to be alone, in the minds of some. It may not be healthy or productive, but at least they aren't alone.

Not surprisingly, this is the vantage point I wrote this from. To get entirely personal, because, what do I have to lose at this point, this is what I meant when I was victim blaming myself. I knew full well that this man I was taking home would not be a good experience. I knew that I wasn't ready and he didn't love me. There was no sane or logical reason to take him home, but I did, because I wanted to feel normal. Not like an untouchable monster. Even if it was the wrong kind of normal, at least I would feel something.
In this way, I am saying that yes, it was my fault. Does it excuse his actions? Not at all. But his actions also could not have taken place if I wasn't putting myself in the situation.

I hope this supplies context to some people out there, specifically ladyarkitekt, if she reads the full comments. It needed to be said.

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