In Her Head

posted April 25th, 2014, 2:01 am


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August 31st, 2013, 8:11 pm

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No, I didn't miss text in frame 5.

Yes, Dan is starting to sound suspiciously like a gatekeeper.
Yes, Annie has much bigger things to deal with.

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April 25th, 2014, 11:02 am

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You took the words out of my head - gatekeeper. Urgh. They have so much power over us and Annie's gibbering reply shows how desperate she is to tick all his boxes.
Perfect GK x

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April 25th, 2014, 2:49 pm

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@stickygirl: The thing about gatekeepers is that some are good and some are bad. She is desperate to tick off the list, but you also have to look at it from his perspective. He isn't denying her anything, but he needs to know that this young lady, who has suffered huge traumas and suicide, is in the proper state of mind to be working on changing her body in this way.

I take this as an example from my life. When I first began to transition, I needed to talk to a therapist to get HRT. In our first meeting, she fully acknowledged that HRT was important to me and got me on that path. We then spent the rest of our time discussing the much more important issue - my massive depression. Even with HRT and transition, the depression would not go away without proper therapy (and in my case, drugs).
In this way, even though she could have said no to HRT and been a bad gatekeeper, she did her job as a proper gatekeeper. Being on HRT was contingent on me being a whole person, not just a trans person.

This is what Dan (Dr Bernt, Mr) is trying to do as well. He is still allowing Annie to get HRT, but he is also making sure she will be a fully happy human being.

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April 25th, 2014, 5:01 pm

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I know what you mean but sometimes it's chicken and egg: some aspects of depression, or maybe some kinds, are alleviated by being on HRT. I think things have moved on a lot as counsellors better understand our perspectives in a general sense and that individuals are treated as unique and not rubber stamped to fit an outdated model.

I'd say to anyone reading this - there are good and bad counsellors and you need to find one whose ideas are not stuck in 20th century thinking. We may not always like what they have to say, but it's a two-way thing and we have to respect their judgement as much as they should respect us.

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