Ron United [2/2]

posted May 1st, 2014, 2:02 am


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August 31st, 2013, 8:36 pm

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Ron United [2/2]

Frame 2 is hard to draw. Tony's daughter looks so happy. You can tell that he loves her deeply.

Then frame 3 just breaks my heart. Sometimes it makes me very sad inside that I can never bear children. It makes me feel hollow, like Annie does there.
But she is right - it may be hard to give up so much, but there never was a real alternative for me. I'd be a terrible mother anyways. I'd have to move back to RMitch and let him do the parenting. That guy would be the best dad ever.

Also - how is Ron seeing Annie's non-existent parallel motherhood hallucinamemory?

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May 1st, 2014, 7:36 am

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Major feelings for this page. Had to have this talk with an ex of mine. He was the second person I came out to as Trans irl, and he had no problem. I admit I went about his sexuality the wrong way. I know he's at least Bi. But he's been conditioned too much by his parents and his community that he can't accept it. It took a lot but he's thinking more about it. I'm sad to say I can't be there for him anymore as he's going through it, but I know he's in good hands with it.

Wow, this turned out somewhat long. I guess I'm in the mood to write.

Regardless, this comic is amazing. I've been waiting for Ron's sexuality to come back into play. He's not a very well covered character. Now just to wait to see what'll happen with Jamie. I love your comic <3

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May 1st, 2014, 10:36 am

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Complicated complicated feelings.

I always thought "I don't really want kids, I just can't imagine myself that way". Until the day I realized that I couldn't imagine myself as a *father*, and that thinking about motherhood raised... a whole different set of emotions. And yeah, there's a serious ache when I think about bearing a child, and know that it's impossible.

Having kids with my genetics is definitely not a hugely important thing to me. I didn't have any sperm banked before hormones, even after thinking about these things. But... adoption is not something I would run screaming from.

Complicated. So complicated.

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May 1st, 2014, 1:52 pm

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@Dew: I agree, I haven't spent enough time on Ron or Sophie, having given them really only implied time with Annie instead of direct. There is no real reason for Sophie, but for Ron, that can be traced to the RRon - for one of my best friends, we barely hung out in high school. I knew so little about him and he had a million friends, he rarely had time to spend with RMitch and myself. I could just make stuff up about RRon to fit the story, true, but I don't feel that I should make stuff up about him - his story is already compelling as it is.
He does get more screen time in the next year, and his sexuality is explored more.

As for Jamie? What about him? He is a jerk and he left Annie and the hell with him. Unless you mean Vic, in which case, he is a jerk and keeps being mean to Annie and the hell with him.

@Hypatian: I'm sure it will come up more prolifically in Annie's life in the future (as it did in yours and mine), this was mostly because this conversation happened at such a young age with RRon. I agree entirely that it is best to keep my genes out of the pool, so that doesn't hurt too much. Except now all the weight is on my brother and he refuses to just breed already. And neither RMitch nor RRon will get married and make me an aunt. And I'm crazy so I can't adopt either.

It makes me sad to think about how I can't have kids of my own. Then I think about what it truly means to be a mother. It isn't to splort out a kidlette and raise them. It isn't to adopt and keep them around for years on end. No, it is to be someone who loves unconditionally, as a parent, and to want to shield those from harm and let them grow to become beautiful. I can't be a biological mother, but in the community, I can be a village mother. It's a comfort.

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May 2nd, 2014, 12:17 pm

stickygirl (Guest)

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My cousin and wife have an adorable 2yr old and I spent Xmas with them when he was still being fed. I wrote a lot in my journal about that and I did a lot of sole searching. I still haven't resolved it in my mind and I don't suppose I ever will. I know cis-women who haven't had children and I think they feel the same. So long as I can stay close to my cousin and watch his child grow up, sit him on my knee and do stupid voices and such... asdfghjkl pfft - that's pretty good. Not the real thing, but still good and I'm happy to have that.

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June 21st, 2014, 11:51 am

mittfh

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While trans people obviously can't have biological children, assuming they can find a friendly fostering / adoption agency (no doubt harder in some places than others), that's a potential alternative route. Sure, they won't have ~49.9% of your DNA in them and may not resemble you at all, but legally, developmentally and socially, you'll still be their parent.

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June 22nd, 2014, 3:23 am

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@mittfh: Fun fact - people who try to commit suicide have a harder time adopting. And I hopefully think I've shown that your parents are who love you, not who made you. Annie's mom is Julie Bernt.

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