Unbiased

posted May 27th, 2014, 2:01 am


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September 6th, 2013, 11:22 pm

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I'm 99% sure I asked the RMitch this. His reaction was 'don't be stupid'. It was so spot on!

Looks like Mitch managed to cheer Annie up though. Mission accomplished!

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Artist note - that girl is the first I've ever drawn without an ear. I was inspired by watching Heroes. That woman who can make fire, you can't see her ears. Yup. I'm all proud of myself right now.

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May 27th, 2014, 3:21 am

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How people perceive me worries me a lot, and what friends and partners say doesn't help, of course they are biased.
At least in direct conversations.

But relatively recently I met an old internet friend, the meeting wasn't so special in itself, but later on (on the internet, IRC) another internet friend asked him if I was pretty and it meant a lot to me when he replied "yes, very pretty", with me not being part of the conversation it sounded much more genuine and unbiased.

Still not entirely convinced though

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May 27th, 2014, 3:38 am

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@A: What would convince you? Would anything people say convince you?

But much more importantly, do you already know how beautiful you are?

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May 27th, 2014, 12:09 pm

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and have you got ears?

you have to be careful what you overhear by accident but my rule is: ignore the bad stuff but consider the good as gospel truth.
I've growing quite fond of Mitch

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May 28th, 2014, 2:36 am

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@GreenKrog: I guess hearing something like it from people from around here would eventually convince me.

I've noticed while traveling that how often I get gendered right versus how often I get misgendered seems to depend on where I am. Different notions of femininity and masculinity I guess.
I seem to pass the best where that internet friend was from and the worst (of the few places I've been) where I live.
So my internet friend saying I'm pretty doesn't really tell me much about how well I pass here, which is where it matters the most.

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May 28th, 2014, 11:03 am

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Hi A. I watched an interview of Laverne Cox & Janet Mock yesterday and they both said they still get misgendered, as do we all.
We have to live with it so it's a matter of getting our head straight so's simple misgendering doesn't bother us so much: easier said than though, especially because little snidey comments can hurt the most. Verbal abuse & insults always hurt but at least you can tackle those kinda head on?
Keep your friends close and accept their well-meaning compliments with a happy heart <<hugs>>

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