Agreed

posted July 5th, 2014, 2:01 am


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September 21st, 2013, 7:01 am

GreenKrog

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Hey Annie? Yer kinda being a bit of a bitch. Just saying. I get that you are down and all, but.. you know, this is why Sophie and Andrea hate being around Tony. You get all mean and hurtful and lash out at anyone.. especially yourself.

Also, frame 6? If I still cut myself (it's been almost two months, woo!) I would be doing so now.

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Also, holy shit, if you do cut, please please please stop please. There are better ways. You don't have to scar yourself permanently. It won't make anything better. It won't help. Don't be me, don't wear your hurt on glaring red blood. You can be better than me. Please be better than me, please?
I wish you could hear how desperate my thoughts are, please, if you cut, let me, let someone, let anyone help. Don't be me. Don't.

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July 5th, 2014, 6:45 am

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Ouch. I think she's in dire need of a pep talk with the Bernts - she's evidently so wrapped up in her angst she's finding it difficult to concentrate. Her tutee obviously wouldn't have been aware of her issues, but this definitely wasn't a good time to mention his friend's invite to the dance.

Unfortunately, she'll probably bottle it all up and wallow in her sorrows until someone like Lexi notices and rants at her until she opens up (and metaphorically speaking, wakes up?!).

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July 5th, 2014, 9:45 am

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It's so distressing to see Annie backsliding, as if she is burning all her self-confidence, like when a distraught person will burn their money. It ( the school uniform matter ) was indeed handed to her on a silver platter, and she just knocked it to the ground, with everything being upset and scattered. So sad !

Wither you know or acknowledge it or not, you, as the creator of Wildflowers, as a force for good in the Vancouver trans*group, and as a voice of reason on Redditt, you are a role model. You advice about others cutting is very good, and shows that you are a caring person. If at all possible, please just abide by it for yourself, as a role model would. Please do this for yourself, as well as warning others.

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July 5th, 2014, 11:02 am

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I can't add to what Cute has said - spot on x

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July 6th, 2014, 3:32 am

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@CuteDress&TwinPonytails: Please avoid bringing the contents of my journal to here. While I appreciate the nice words, my life is pretty terrible for cheering people up. I fully acknowledge that I am a role model - that speaks volumes about the level of acceptance we as trans people face.

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July 6th, 2014, 9:25 am

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I was not referring to the contents of your journal, because I already know your feelings about that, and I respect that and respect you for that. I was referring to your out-in-the-open comments on that subject that you posted in this installment of Wildflowers, No. 640, " Agreed ".

I worry about Annie, and I worry about you all the time, and try to find words that will help and heal.

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July 6th, 2014, 12:27 pm

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I'm moving to Vancouver...

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July 6th, 2014, 3:26 pm

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@CuteDress&TwinPonytails: I didn't mention anywhere that I was the coordinator for the Vancouver trans group, and I don't think I mentioned my work on Reddit. I usually want that stuff to speak for itself. Especially with how painful it can be in addition to the hell I put Annie through, I created the side journal so that my general negativity would not be brought here. I know you worry about me, and I appreciate it - but unless it is directly a positive message, I try not to bring it up here.

@stickygirl: For realz? Or just teasin'?

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July 6th, 2014, 5:17 pm

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@GreenKrog
just wishing, but everything I've heard about Canada is good so it's in my mind. It'd be a wrench to leave family here but I have too many bad memories of the UK. Who knows...

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May 21st, 2016, 11:19 pm

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this.....

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is REALLY starting to be unfair to the reader. if this is in some way autobiographical, i apologize. i can on a certain level understand that realistically the incredible violence can and does happen, along with all the uncertainty.

and sidebar, speaking about the violence, you've mentioned 'trial' and pretty much ignored completely the second attack at the concert. unless some good words are upcoming in future strips, leaving those attacks completely unresolved is a huge question mark.

but in this case, all the great feelings you've built up, for finally, recognition of the school of her real name at least by the principal, and fulfilling her dream of going to school in the proper uniform....

it's really a cheat to the reader, or at least getting to be. don't get me wrong, i'm liking this strip, but damn.... this gal deserves some true -sustained- happiness. and her backsliding NOW just completely negates the last few rather upbeat strips. it's almost as if you only have two modes for the main character: victim or crushing doubt, and you can't think of other ways for her to be or are perhaps afraid to explore anything else.

again, if this is autobiographical, these jibes are somewhat inappropriate, but in any case they do hopefully constructively, point out a technical flaw in the narrative.

and again, in spite of the snipe, STILL like the strip. :)

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May 21st, 2016, 11:52 pm

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@Juliet: I'm sorry, what exactly is unfair to the ready? This story is in no way autobiographical in events, but quite autobiographical in emotion.

I am pleased to say that when it does get to the trial, you will be surprised by how well I have fully encompassed everything. This series plays the long game. Nothing is unresolved - just not resolved YET. I don't believe in instant gratification, my little monsters deserve better than that.

You are right, Annie does have severe difficulty maintaining happiness. I know many trans people who figured out who they were and immediately embraced and were happy with themselves. I know a smaller number of trans people who do have constant doubt and are scared of what might happen.
Personally, I have borderline personality and bipolar disorder. It means that I find it very difficult to maintain a single view of myself. One day I might be happy and love myself. The next I could see him in the mirror and be filled with disgust. I've been me for over ten years, and yet, it still cuts like hell when I hear 'sir' on the phone.

All of this said, when Annie moves in to year two of her life, her life changes to new experiences. Instead of fear of her physical safety, she is concentrated on social acceptance. How to be a friend who isn't a victim, but a friend who can help others instead of needing help. This is the standard arc of development for most people, not just trans, who are coming from trauma. Maslow's hierachy may not be complete, but it does bear a decent framework on how people treat their own lives when compared to what is given to them.

You are right, Annie DOES deserve long term happiness. For some people, that is given to them. For others, it is earned. Annie is earning her happiness, both in action, and in knowing how to be happy. Perhaps that part is autobiographical in that I have no concept of how to be happy. It is a notion that I can see in others but rarely find for myself. I am not there yet - neither is Annie.

If you want a lighter, quicker-to-please strip, I highly recommend reading RainLGBT, found in the 'other reads' at the top. If you want to read some other strips in which the character is made a victim and unable to find happiness, I recommend some of the discontinued strips found near the bottom.

As I have said in previous replies to you, this comic is not for everyone. It has very low readership for good reason.
If you do want to know what is set to happen for the next 10 years of Annies life, I can private message it to you. Otherwise, you can wait it out with everyone else, or hope that I don't take it down from my usual suicide posting that I take down every few months. Not everyone's lives are easy.

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