Bridges

posted July 14th, 2014, 2:01 am


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October 5th, 2013, 1:14 am

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First Lexi is all pushy, and now she is being totally unhelpful when Annie needs the decision made for her? ARGH!

At least Andrea sees that the choice is already made. Perceptive, she is.

I like the unclinical and fanciful term of 'untoward'. So much better than 'In case some bigot beats the hell out of you and leaves you for dead'. Yeah..

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July 14th, 2014, 2:31 am

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She should have opted for a compromise: agree to be driven almost all the way there, being dropped off just around the corner (so to speak). That way, she appears to be on her own, but if anything untoward happens, one press of a speed dial button will summon help within under a minute rather than up to half an hour later (depending on how far away the bridge is by car from the house)(I also still own a dumbphone [which I rarely use], so don't know if speed dial still exists on smartphones).

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July 14th, 2014, 3:52 am

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I suppose in my earlier comments I keep forgetting how naive and young Annie is and how much growing up we do between school age and college age. I learnt from my peers and family, who didn't lecture me, but just mock-laughed by saying 'are you kidding? "Rapesville"' or some such. We're always so damned stubborn at that age and think we know it all...
There are better things than speed-dial Mittfh, and there's a great app here to help keep you safe.
http://www.elle.com/life-love/society-career/kitestring-app-safety-apps-women?src=soc_fc bks

Frame 6 looks like a still from a horror movie: the sort where people say 'Oh, I can hear animal growls in the basement - I'll go down there and hope the lights don't fuse again'

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July 14th, 2014, 4:52 am

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@mittfh: See below
@stickygirl: I just realized that the times when she has had it the worst is when there are plenty of people around. Think about it - at the concert, with security guards. At a hospital, with staff everywhere. At a party, with people all over the place. Having a phone or someone a minute away wouldn't have helped. No more than it would have helped me.
There is only so much preparation you can take. Having people tagging along would, at a certain point, lead her to be disempowered. That would be essentially to say that "you should be afraid. Even after taking self defense courses, and it being the middle of the day, you should still be afraid".

I'm not saying that precautions shouldn't be taken, but where do you make a stand and tell the world that you aren't going to just lie back and accept whatever happens (fuck, don't read into that phrase, ok?). Is there any point where it is acceptable? what sort of proof does one need to have confidence in the self?

I don't really know where to go with this thought from here. I guess I have a problem with being a victim, or acting like I would or could be victimized. I don't believe in living in fear. Already spent 22 years that way when I didn't have any reason to.
Ok, yeah, I'm done talking. Sorry for whatever I just said.

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July 14th, 2014, 5:52 am

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You're meaning rape culture - like, why shouldn't a woman wear what she likes, walk where she likes, say what she likes? Or for that matter why shouldn't some men too? We are all potential victims of the actions of someone in our future and how we avoid it is down to our individual responsibility, as much as it is making our voices heard to shame the rapist and not the victim, or treat domestic violence as a crime and not just 'one of those things'.

I'm not sure you can weave all those elements into Annie's life because, like the horror movie that has us screaming 'don't go into the damned basement!' the point is that you have to put Annie into situations that make us think. If we think and discuss, there is just a chance that one of us might benefit from it in our future. I'd much rather make an ass of myself here than face an ugly situation I could have avoided in real life. (note the accidental passive there - "I could have avoided" - that shit gets everywhere in your head right?)

You doing good Missy GK - making us think :)

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July 14th, 2014, 11:20 am

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May not be the best time, but I keep wondering; their hair must grow amazingly slow if they don't have natural roots showing yet. Not to mention the dye would have faded a while ago. What kind did that hairdresser use? Get me some, in blue!

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July 14th, 2014, 12:06 pm

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@Dew: A little known fact, seldom reported, is that mtf's hair is naturally pink. Surprising that no one has used it as a diagnostic tool... Why, is yours blue?? ;-)

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July 14th, 2014, 3:30 pm

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@Dew: Her hair gets touched up quite frequently. The highlights are put it every few days or whenever they wash out (after swimming, etc). That all said, hair grows at about 1.25cm a month, or 0.5 inches per month. So it comes to about 6 inches a year - which we have overlooked to get Annie longer hair, more quickly.
For the roots, it has been generally understated. However, Valerie (I don't think you've met her) has hers showing all the time, it is quite obvious. And around 11 months from now IRL time, you will see Annie's roots too (it is part of a story arc, actually).
I hope this thoroughly answers all of your questions about a made-up character in a fictional setting :)

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July 14th, 2014, 5:28 pm

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Except hair on legs seems to grow 0.5inch a week dammit!! :P

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July 14th, 2014, 6:03 pm

Dew (Guest)

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Okay, maybe my hair is just magic or something. I dyed it not even 2 weeks ago and it's already grey and has a quarter inch brown on top :/

And I asked because they said it was Lexi's yearly birthday trip, so i assumed it would stay like that for a bit but not forever. I like it though! Dyed hair is the best.

@stickygirl Mine is blue, Comes with being ftm ;)

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