Inflamed

posted September 14th, 2014, 2:01 am


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November 2nd, 2013, 7:03 am

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You know, this entire encounter is made more difficult in that I really haven't actually given Sophie a last name. Come to think of it, I don't think I gave Andrea one either, and I will need that really soon. Dammit.

Oh dad-character totally not based on my dad, do you have any idea what you just said?
(Don't remember my dad borking up like this!)

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September 14th, 2014, 6:05 am

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Unfortunately that 'Dad' character is similar to my dad.


Poor Annie, I do empathize with her. Not only is she taking the heat about what happened... but her Dad is not even addressing her correctly...

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September 15th, 2014, 1:21 am

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@Cynn: What so many of us forget is that, while we have been living with ourselves, our friends and family often have had very little time to deal with it. Annie's father, for example, has only seen her a handful of times, given that he lives so far away. His mental default is the one he had for the last 14 years - while it hurts, it can hardly be held against him that he slips up like this. Heck, even I still look up when someone says my old name, and I've been me for as long as I've been me!

@stickygirl: I apologize if it came across that way - I meant it for her father to be slipping up, not deliberately addressing her incorrectly. Tomorrow's post clarifies that a bit. As you might imagine, the comics come in groups in my head and in posting, so it makes more flow there than it does here some days.

@Erin: You nailed it on the head. Adults tend to trust each other more than they do their kids, even if they are adults as well! Then again, don't parents have to live with our lies while we grow up? (There is a social stage where kids lie about everything).

I don't feel it quite fair to say that they think Annie is lying though. Do you think Sophie's mom really came out and gave the WHOLE story? Or just the part that makes her look like the victim? I somehow doubt she told the police she hit her daughter, right? The situation isn't pretty, but I don't think anyone is actually saying Annie isn't being honest. Heck, at this point, Annie hasn't even given her side, she's just been dodgy and nebulous since she didn't want to have Sophie's mom arrested for abuse!

The emotional swing is not that uncharacteristic, actually. She is never really willing to fight for herself, but she will fight for her friends. In Annie's mind, this isn't about herself, it is about Sophie. So while she is technically standing up for herself, it is more like standing up for an ideal than a person.

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September 14th, 2014, 2:36 pm

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This is not just typical of some parents, but authority over us in general. Everything is dandy until a challenge comes up, then it's them that throw their toys out the pram. They act like they'd done us a huge favour by 'accepting' our status but switch back when it suits them, because they think they can withdraw their acceptance like a punishment. Our gender used as a stick to beat us with. It's blackmail

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September 15th, 2014, 12:16 am

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To be fair to Annie's dad in respect to misgendering, he is most likely just very upset at his kid, who for some reason he doesn't believe. Now, the fact that some parents take the word of total strangers over their own children is something that is a lot more upsetting to me. I wish I could say that this scenario is implausible in the real world, but unfortunately I've had similar things happen to me.

Unrelated, but that's a bit of an emotional swing for Annie! and way for her to stand up for herself!

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September 15th, 2014, 1:15 am

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hey - I was only ranting. Everyone needs a rant. Good points btw :D Still, funny how the old pronoun habit tends to pop up when emotions are high

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