Confidence

posted December 24th, 2014, 2:01 am


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January 21st, 2014, 8:10 pm

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Eight years after transition, my voice still gets me in trouble. I was at a Gaymers thing this weekend, and clearly I was quite girly, and yet, after a while, a guy at the table called me 'he'. I know he had absolutely no malicious intent. I know everybody at work and at games think I am a girl, but after not looking at me for a while and hearing my deep voice, people just.. forget.

Hopefully Annie will hit a point where that's no longer an issue. Unlike today :(

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December 24th, 2014, 4:09 am

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I know how you feel. I have been going to a great salon for well over a year, and seeing my current stylist for 4 or so months. My stylist knows, but had not seen me early in transition, she never mis-gendered me until our last appointment. I mentioned something about resent political events (the overturning of a non discrimination ban) and how far I had come, she asked to see my pre-transition photos, I showed her, and boom, a he slipped out. It nearly ruined what was otherwise a great a day. I talked to her about it, and it, she felt horrible, and that made it a little more okay, but still, it was devastating to think that I was now linked to that other person in her mind. I hope that it doesn't taint the rest of my time with her as I love her work, but I can;t stand that kind of psychological trauma.

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December 24th, 2014, 7:57 am

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Just to show you how dense, stupid, and mean-spirited cis-people can be, I attended a truck safety meeting recently in Ohio. A high ranking vice-president of the trucking company that I work for came from Georgia and hosted the meeting. He knew that I had transitioned on the job, but had not met me lately, and turned out to be a hardcore right-wing nutter. How do I know ? I had a chance to talk to him privately at lunch time. For the half-day meeting I chose to wear a white, tight-fitting polo shirt that shows the outline of one's bust, a pale blue denim just-above-the-knee-hemline skirt, nude pantyhose, and dark blue Mary Jane flats. I had my hair done up in pigtails and tiny bows, and I had on a sticker that said,

" Hello
My Name is Peggy
Please use 'she','her','hers'".

During the entire conversation, this turd of a manager used 'he','him','his', and used my former male name, right to my face !!!

I wanted to shove a fist in his face, and a knife in his back, but I had to just grit my teeth and smile back, since I need him and his company for a job, more than his company needs me !
I know just how Annie feels !

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June 7th, 2017, 4:47 pm

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I'm not so sure about this one.

Annie is fifteen and it is canon that she had not gone through puberty as Tony. How then would her voice be deep enough to be "sirred"?

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June 7th, 2017, 5:13 pm

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@sunspark: She didn't go through full puberty, not none at all. By 15 my voice had already deepened. Actually, by 13 my voice was deeper and by 14 I had lousy facial hair. Additional to that, being constantly depressed made my general voice articulation come out deeper (and still does when I am depressed).

Sure, she is trying here, but her voice is still halfway between trained and untrained.

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June 22nd, 2017, 9:22 am

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I spoke to a gg friend about this. She's a black woman with a really deep voice who gets "sir'red" all the time over the phone. In my case, my voice getting me read has lead to small cases of anxiety, but I did something about it (voice surgery) and now I get "sir'red" much, much less. I used to think appearance was the #1 thing to work on, but now I believe it's a combination of appearance, voice, and confidence.

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