Trial of Andrea 1/2

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April 5th, 2014, 3:01 am

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Trial of Andrea 1/2

So I did some general research about this, because I didn't know. Here in Canada, a child abuse case is generally not a matter of trial unless it is criminal in nature. Non-lethal neglect, emotional abuse, these are non-criminal matters. However, sexual and physical abuse, including both violence or lethal neglect, are criminal matters. Generally the minor does not need to be present for those proceedings.
So this is not a trial. It is a hearing to determine the criminal charges to go to court with. And also to determine the best social outcome for the minor, which can be determined without the criminal trial. This is especially true when there is physical evidence of abuse, where there is confirmed criminal charge, and the extent is what is in question.

Of course, this is only my own learning and it could be WAY off. If you want to learn more about it yourself, or the laws regarding this in your country, please look it up and educate yourself.

And I will say it to everyone out there, because this is important. If you have been abused, neglected, or hurt, it is not your fault. There may be no trial, but you need to know that there are people who care about you, and would do anything to protect you. It can be nearly impossible to see or feel now, but it is absolutely true.
If you are still in an abusive situation, you deserve better. You are worth so much more. Nobody should have to live through that, and talking about it is the first step. I promise that if I am still here, and you message me, I will do absolutely anything in my power to help.

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March 23rd, 2015, 12:11 pm

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@glitchedout: It is hard to deal with abuse because it gets us in the mindset of 'we are abused' instead of 'we are with someone abusive'. Instead of putting the blame on another, we internalize it as something about us, not about them. And that can be hard to go out and say 'this person is a problem' instead of 'I have a problem'.

If nobody had told Sophie, and Sophie hadn't told the Bernts, who knows what would have happened.
If someone knew about my mother's abuse, I doubt it would have had the same impact. Emotional and neglectful abuse is a lot harder to 'prove' than bruises. You could say I took the easy way out when it came to this problem for our characters - Andrea immediately got removed from her father, and Annie never has to go home to her emotionally crippling mother. I don't know what I could even do about a character who doesn't have that option, because I simply don't have that answer.

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April 7th, 2015, 5:07 pm

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@GreenKrog: I have a friend, a 16 year old girl. She lives with a mother and step-dad that strongly believe that "there's no way she can be unhappy" and depression does not exist, and have made these and other statements at her. This poor girl suffers from depression, cuts, and spends a lot of time thinking about aggravating her asthma so that she would get taken to the hospital.

We've talked about other family, but the biological father is worse, the grandparents are the same, and the brother is only in college.

She's stuck. There is literally nothing I can do for her except be her friend. Its brought me to tears that I can do nothing for her except try and keep her alive, try to convince her that enduring for another 2 years will make things better.

If anybody has any better ideas, I'm open to them.

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