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posted September 27th, 2015, 2:01 am


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October 4th, 2014, 3:08 am

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When pushed into it, Annie decided on Bree over Lexi.

Who actually needs her more?

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September 27th, 2015, 12:06 pm

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Is it a question of who needs her more or who deserves her more? Because Lexi, while being understandably kind of screwed up at the moment, isn't Annie's responsibility. That sounds harsh, but let me explain.

Lexi is sinking a giant pool of her own depression/neurosis/general emotional issues. Annie wants to reach in and save her, which is a good thing, but also Annie doesn't have the time and resources to do that. Annie is only barely keeping her own head above water, and Lexi is pretty much just leaning into the slide at this point. So could Annie maybe help if she spent all of her time dealing with Lexi's problems? maybe, but it's unlikely, and Annie would almost certainly be collateral damage.

Bree is being plot dumb by not just letting Annie explain what is going on, but other than that is fairly stable (besides an apparent tendency towards clingyness and being hurt by not always being Annie's number one priority). That, though, seems like something Bree is at least aware of and trying to take steps to deal with situationaly ("I can't be here right now" is a valid mental self-preservation tactic).

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September 27th, 2015, 12:39 pm

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@Erin: Depends on your concept of 'deserves'. Lexi was there for Annie at her lowest, time and again, while Annie was figuring herself out. Even when Annie pushed Lexi away again and again, Lexi kept coming back to help. Bree, on the other hand, is (for all intents and purposes) some pretty girl that Annie seems to want to go out with.

I agree, Lexi isn't Annie's responsibility, on a big detached picture. Stop to think though - if your brother is an alcoholic, are you not responsible to try to get him help? If you find out your coworker is cutting themselves, is it not your responsibility to try to talk to them? This is entirely forgetting how much Lexi has done for Annie, and just focusing on family and human compassion. Factor in that Annie will undoubtedly need Lexi again in the future, helping Lexi is almost a selfish ambition.

Could Annie deal with Lexi? Right now, I doubt it. Especially with Lexi being so obtuse. Putting Annie in a situation where she has to choose one or the other *solely* to put Annie on the spot, that isn't something Annie seems capable of dealing with (going by her history). Some day Annie will be more like her mother, but right now, she doesn't seem to be able to cope with this sort of thing.

Bree isn't being plot dumb, she is being a scared hurt teenager who doesn't handle social drama. Keep in mind that she has been predispositioned to think everyone is against her due to Wendy and Cindi, I can't imagine it would be easy for Bree to handle much beyond her own friends - let alone to someone new in her life that she seems to have VERY mixed... uh.. 'feelings' about.
Personally I am a lot like Bree that way. I can't handle much face to face. I need to walk away and be alone and then wait until people message me so we can start talking. Even if I know their reasons are valid, I can't handle face to face things like that on the spot. So I do apologize if it comes off as a lazy plot device, that was not my intent.

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September 27th, 2015, 4:38 pm

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@GreenKrog: Still, the most intuitive or seemingly right way of handling a situation isn't always the best, and sometimes you need to be a jerk to someone to help them.

At this point, even if Annie pours all her energy into helping Lexi, what will that accomplish? Lexi will just keep being an asshole and drag Annie down with her. It may look at first glance like Lexi has hit her lowest point, but she hasn't. Case in point: the reason she's being such a jerk right now is that she can afford to, because no matter how insufferable she is, she knows her family will not give up on her.

It may seem extremely harsh, but at this point I think the best thing Annie can do for both herself and Lexi is to stop trying to help her. Just give up on her. Let her sink even deeper until she realizes she's really fucked up this time. You can't help someone who won't help themselves.

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