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posted January 18th, 2016, 2:01 am


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March 30th, 2015, 6:45 pm

GreenKrog

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Sometimes the answer is 'I cant see the future'. Annie gets that now.

In this situation, they don't demand that you have a five year plan. They don't demand that you know every aspect of your life. All they, the psychs, want from you, is to have a firm understanding that your life is not dictated by surgery. That you can and will survive without it. It is a sign of stability to be able to be ok with your faults, even if you want to improve them.

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January 18th, 2016, 2:10 am

Drunkenmists

Whoa

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Whoa.
I. Umm.

Never thought of things that way.

I...Whoa.
I.. haven't dicated that Surgery is life...but this is a whole new way of looking at things that kinda..*phewwww*. Went right over my head.

This changes alot. Honestly.
Alot for the better.

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January 18th, 2016, 12:09 pm

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@Drunkenmists: I'm glad to hear it does. Having a goal, an end game, is nice. But it shouldn't dictate how we live in the meantime.
I just hope Annie even CAN still get surgery, with her bad internal organs and all.

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January 19th, 2016, 12:27 pm

DCFAN (Guest)

Hi again

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I actually just had a conversation with my therapist about this. I said my plan was to get it removed, because that is what I believe I need to be complete and that is my plan.

However, I said at the moment I've just started HRT (almost a week in), and full time is six months away. I'm basically out everywhere but work. I could change my mind about feeling the need for it (I've wanted it since I was 9-that definitely won't change), but I highly doubt it.

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January 19th, 2016, 12:45 pm

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@DCFAN: It is a crucial question to ask, because it sets a tone for how we view our transitions and ourselves. Surgery is very important for some, but if it can never happen, we still need to know if we will be able to have a good life without.

Some people do change their mind as they become more comfortable with themselves. The feeling of 'I've gone as far as I need, myself' can adjust as those milestones are hit. My ex didn't really want surgery, but two years or RLE and she decided she did because it would make her feel more complete. And yet, all the time before that, she was happy without it. This is what we should all strive for.

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