Fantasy

posted January 31st, 2016, 2:01 am


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March 31st, 2015, 6:48 pm

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This might have gone a little off the rails, and I apologize for that. There is a lot of complicated psychology around the fantasy of how we present ourselves, the fantasy we want others to see, the fantasy of who we want to be, and the fantasy of who we are in spite of all of those.

If I put on a bikini top and go motorcycling, I am presenting myself for others to see me as a badass biker chick with great curves and a decent rack. It is the fantasy of the racer types, and for those who like their women a little edgy but still 'real' looking.
In the same situation, what I want to be seen as is someone unafraid to take chances, even though I am inside utterly terrified of anyone actually approaching me when I am doing that. It sure as hell isn't safe and it isn't something I normally do, so why would I want people to see that fantasy creation of what is me?
This doesn't overlap much with the fantasy of who I want to be, and that is a loving, caring person, who also happens to have a little bit of a wild side. I don't actually have that side - which is why it is only a fantasy to me, and for me to present when I feel it. Not only for THEIR sake, but, for my own.

In Valeries case, who did she get those implants for? For men to oggle her? For her to feel oggled? For her to feel closer to how she sees herself in her fantasies?
We shouldn't judge people like that, because we can't understand them unless we are them. Maybe you see Valerie as shallow because she wants to be seen as a big breasted woman. Maybe she sees you as shallow for assuming that it is about how YOU perceive her fantasies.

There are so many layers that we put forward to both hide ourselves, and hide ourselves in plain sight. Annie and Valerie no longer hide from each other. They don't need to.

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January 31st, 2016, 12:50 pm

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"In the same situation, what I want to be seen as is someone unafraid to take chances, even though I am inside utterly terrified of anyone actually approaching me when I am doing that.
This doesn't overlap much with the fantasy of who I want to be, and that is a loving, caring person, who also happens to have a little bit of a wild side. "

IDK---Maybe this is why I wear my hair in pigtails with ribbons all the time now, wear dresses with bare legs and frilly socks, and enjoy occasionally going to amusement parks . . . .

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February 25th, 2016, 7:39 pm

Lex-Kat (Guest)

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I want bigger breasts because I know they will make me feel more feminine. I've been told that what I have (not quite a B) is big enough and that I am already being ogled, but it's not about them. It's about me.

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