Empty Cup

posted July 20th, 2016, 2:01 am


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November 1st, 2015, 5:41 pm

GreenKrog

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Flint would love to 'test her all night long'. It's what you were all thinking. Go ahead, write your own fanfic. Go ahead!

For everyone who says to write out full numbers in alphabetic form instead of numeric form - fuck you. Er, I mean, I get it, and I try, but space is an issue, and also, fuck you.
...and fuck me because this is the kind of thing that bothers me and I immediately start having issues when someone else does it. So fuck everyone! I'm out! I'm done!

What Annie just said about factoring in a way that makes sense to her? That isn't about math. It is about life. Looking at the big picture all the time can drive you insane. Trying to solve depression by 'fixing it' is, usually, an unachievable goal. You need to get through this hour. This day. This week. Keep building until you are better. Remove the giant numbers and focus on what you can actually do.

(Lets say this next section is about passing, because I don't really get androgyeny or genderfluid).
Same thing with trans issues. The 'end goal' is to be how you want to look. It is finally feeling in your own skin how you should have felt to begin with. Looking at the costs involved and the giant amount of time it takes will put anyone into a spin. "I will never look like that". Well, no, you won't if you never take the small steps. That person didn't start out looking how they look now. That huge muscled dude didn't pop out of the womb a seven foot monster with muscles the size of a car. He went to the gym every day for years. He put in effort, made sacrifices, to get to where he is happy with himself. That woman you are so adoring, she started as a tiny weird pink thing (well, if she is white, she started pink. Babies are weird). Her breasts started as nothing but a flat chest. They took years to develop, same as yours will.

Trying to always deal with the big picture can leave you feeling helpless. I wish I could reach more people with this comic so I could help them. I wish I had more time to support those on Reddit when they are in a bad place. But I am just one person, and I accept that. So I do what I can. Instead of trying to save everyone, I save one person at a time. I didn't start with fourteen hundred comics. That took three years of effort, dedication, and a lot of time spent failing utterly. But look where it is now. I cut out the 'I need to be comic X or read Y subscribers'. I just said that I will do tomorrow's comic. And then the next one.

Stop focusing on the factorials. Focus on what you can do. Define what you understand, and build on that. Learn from your mistakes, ask for help when you need it. Eventually, you will be the one others compare themselves to.

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July 20th, 2016, 2:27 am

Becky (Guest)

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You helped at least one person today who was battling with 'big' issues.

That's my motivation sorted missus.

Thank you as always hun,
Bex
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July 22nd, 2016, 9:46 pm

MelinaRayna

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That is another really good post. Worth quoting and sharing.

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September 13th, 2016, 6:28 pm

Lex-Kat (Guest)

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Beautiful. I hope that I can build myself up to feel as beautiful as others see me.

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June 12th, 2017, 2:02 pm

sunspark

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@GreenKrog: I love the way that your comics and your comments tend toward the profound. I think that, if I were to do a webcomic (and I could WRITE one but lack entirely the ability to DRAW one*) I'd like to think I would do something similar. You don't generally hit people over the head (though you hit Annie over the head a lot) like Assigned Male (which I also like); you make the comic stand for itself and then, when you feel like it, you write an (occasionally lengthy) treatise about your feelings. I think that would be my modus operandi too.

* I'm not kidding. I know you have always had issues with your art, but I for one have always felt it to be good, at times adorable. Sure, it's on the simpler side of the comics spectrum, but so what? Here's me: when I was in second grade, a nun teaching my class art watched us for a couple of weeks and then divided the class into two groups. There was the talented group; she put them in the front of the class and gave them instruction. And then there was my group; she left up in the back, gave up paper and paints and whatever, and left us on our own. I have received no artistic education since the first weeks of second grade. No wonder the most realistic things I can draw are stick figures...

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June 12th, 2017, 7:51 pm

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@sunspark: Assigned Male fell of my reading list because it seemed to me downright preachy. One of those comics that the people reading it already know this shit, so why it is being pushed back at me? Instead of telling a story or being 'that is me, I get this', they went with the angle of trying to teach in some really blunt ways. Which is fine, but it isn't my style. Moses wrote down commandments, Jebus spoke in parables.

So here is my bluntness about my art and art in general: some people simply can't art. What you see is a lot of people ripping in to me about what humans look like because I have no concept. Size of ears, where eyes are on the head, no bloody clue. Not for lack of effort, but the connection between placement doesn't work in my brain. I don't make art, I basically do what I have been told and is within my range of capability. I can look at what someone else has done and know why those lines work in that way, but I cannot DO it. Sort of like cooking.
I am not saying that you suck at art for the same reasons I do. But there is a good chance that this is true. I did take real art classes, I can't be taught. Give me a puzzle or a lot of numbers that need to be in the right place at the right time, THAT I can handle. Ask what a living being looks like? Nope.

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