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December 20th, 2016, 9:06 pm

Lex-Kat (Guest)


I loved the first season of Heroes. Was definitely disappointed in the second, didn't see the third, and didn't even know there was a forth. O.O

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December 31st, 2016, 12:29 am



@Lex-Kat: Im not sure I knew there was a fourth either. It wasnt the reboot, was it? Either way, I'm signing a cheque with a bag fat 'nope' on it and mailing that to Nopetown.

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June 13th, 2017, 11:05 am



I thought you might appreciate this, AK. I'd have sent it privately but I have no clue how to do that.

I am active on a support board for incontinent people. (Yep: fought for forty years to lose the bulge in front and then fifteen years later, my body played yet another joke on me and handed it back in the form of adult diapers. C'est la vie.) Anyway, I have had long conversations with this 20-year-old girl, a double amputee above the knees since an accident when she was very young that also left her both bladder and bowel incontinent, about her lifelong struggles both to handle her disabilities and to be accepted in the world. This is what I wrote to her last night:

So I'm reading (bingeing) this webcomic called "Wildflowers." It's been going since 2013 but I've only just discovered it. It's a story about a Canadian teenager named Tony who, at age 15, falls completely apart when he realizes that the generalized anger and self-loathing he has felt all of his life is due to the fact that he feels that he is transgender. Since his mother, who brought him up, is a really fundamentalist Christian--transphobic, homophobic all the way--he cannot handle the revelation. Once he accepts it as truth (after accidentally receiving a girl's uniform at school), he decides on Halloween night to take an overdose of sleeping pills and kills off the evil within him once and for all.

This lands him in a hospital, where he technically dies before ending up in a psych ward. On the road to some kind of recovery, such as it would be, Tony is attacked by a transphobic orderly and beaten nearly to death. This is how the story begins. It follows the story of how Tony, who becomes Toni and later Annie, works her way through a transition that is full of more darkness than any ten transitions should be: betrayals by friends, abandonment by would-be boyfriends and girlfriends, anti-gay conversion therapy, many more serious assaults, two attempted rapes, a horribly transphobic school principal, and many more things. Every time her path clears and she finally believes she is able to be happy for awhile, to be truly herself, things come crashing down for one reason or another.

Readers know she is a survivor and a fighter. We know she'll eventually be OK and all the stronger for her fight. But it's so hard to watch. When I consider it, Annie's story isn't all that far from yours. You're both stuck in a body that isn't perfect, one that stands out and makes you feel different, one that fails you in specific ways. You both have had this issue all of your life (though she couldn't put a name on hers for a long time). For both of you, there are better times and then really bad times. Both of you have learned how to be fighters. Both of you worry about how others will perceive you, both as friends and as lovers. And (I didn't think of this until just now) both of you are swimmers.

Annie struggles a lot, but she's strong and she'll win her fight. From what I know of you, I'm betting you will as well.

She wrote back: "I'm flattered....... Really, thanks for the compliment, I'll definitely get over how things are going/how they might go, I just need time because it feels like a lot at the moment, but it's always felt like that."

Sounds like Annie.

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