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January 29th, 2015, 11:43 am

GreenKrog

Depression and Statistics

Howdy folks. I know a lot of people were really into the Mal page and the statistics of transgenderism incidence in the population. Our friend 4C51 did exactly what I've always asked for and gave me good solid evidence to change my mind. So, my mind is changed! I redid the math on the page, linked the study mentioned, and hopefully arrived at a better number for everyone. You are more than welcome to go over the entire thread, seeing how I defended/rebutted the original statistics. I worked with the best info I had - and that info was either wrong or outdated. So I am pleased that I was wrong!
http://wildflowers.smackjeeves.com/comics/1885089/mal/
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22095354

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Otherwise, people are probably wondering why they haven't received their Waffles prizes. The short answer - depression, Christmas, and moving. I have been unable to draw, write, or be anything useful in about three months now. I have fallen nearly two months behind in posting because of it. This is exactly why I build in a one year buffer, is because I know full well that I am not a healthy person in the mind, and that this is not something that will go away any time soon. So I am dealing with it, and I will be all right. It just means that people won't have their prizes for a little while longer, and for that, I am sorry.

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Same info posted to the facebook group, for those who follow. Thanks for supporting me!

https://www.facebook.com/WildflowersWebcomic

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July 13th, 2015, 6:37 am

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January 3rd, 2016, 8:29 pm

Fox (Guest)

This is my first time replying here, but I wanted to say how much I dislike and find harmful the term "special snowflake". I honestly think it's as bad as any other slur because it's made to discredit someone's identity and experience and to vilify them. I am a man who was born with a female body, I want to transition and be accepted as a man, but I don't get to tell someone else who they are or why they feel what they feel because I don't know what goes on in their head and heart and I don't think anyone else has that right either. Being transgender, having a mental illness like bipolar disorder, having a particular gender identity does NOT, in my opinion, make one capable of deciding if someone else is/has those things. Are there people who lie to be "cool" sure, but I feel it's not right and in fact, hypocritical to tell someone else who you have never met "you're not really__ you're just pretending." I think people need to stop trying to define someone else's truth and deny it's validity because it's not like theirs. I love this comic, but when I saw that it felt the same to me as all the people who tell Annie she's not a "real" girl. I don't think a comic like this should have words like that thrown around in the forums because to me that is no different than what people have done to so many people for being different, hating them, vilifying them, being offended by them, or being angry with them for not fitting someone else's idea of who they should be. Words are powerful and calling people you don't know names because of what you THINK they are is not different than what others have done to transgender people, mentally ill people, gay people, etc. Basically, I think passing judgment on strangers just keeps hate alive and I thought this comic was about fighting hate.

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January 3rd, 2016, 9:12 pm

GreenKrog

@Fox; And I dislike it when people who are going through a difficult time call it depression when all it is is sadness. I dislike it when a guy dresses in drag for Halloween and claims to be transgender. And more than anything, I dislike it when I am told that transgenderism is about as real as multiple personality disorder. If the people claiming to have multiple personality and their 'fronting' had any idea what it is like to lose all touch with reality and watch yourself go through the motions of depersonalization, they would be horrified at what they claim to be.

These things make a mockery of people who sincerely need real help, like I do. Oh, right, and that whole 'your not really X' has a good basis to go on for statistical and practical application of medical science to achieve a relevant state of support. Fitting in to a specific diagnosis allows medical professionals to give proper care instead of having to deal with people who make abstract claims. Do you have any idea how hard it is for me to get the help I need when I have a legit medical problem, going on to forums and having them flooded with people who have no idea what it actually is? That is a real question, DO YOU? I am currently on a medication that is literally causing my heart to fail while I wait for the overcrowded mental health system to fix me. Go ahead and look on reddit and other forums what depersonalization means. Keep in mind, it is an actual part of borderline personality disorder. So go ahead, and look on forums and tell me about all of the people who 'front' their 'alters' and then you come back to me with a place I can actually get help. I'm waiting. I am literally waiting here with my arms bleeding constantly because the only thing I can do to keep my head above water and maintain some semblance of reality is to physically injure myself. So you want to throw it against me that I can't find anyone out there who actually understands me in all of this because a bunch of fucking special snowflake tumblrinas have decided that they have depersonalization so they can make shit up? Have you ever BEEN in an asylum with people who have heard voices? Do you have any idea how alarming and terrifying it is? To see someone look at something that isn't there and respond to a person who isn't in the room?

When a person has a real, legit, life impacting problem, they don't go an start tumblring about it. They don't start demanding xir and xe pronouns. They actually take action to try to get real help. Maybe YOU can accept that all of those people out there actually do have multiple people living inside them, but the fact that medical science has YET TO SEE THIS (beyond a very limited few case examples) should be a damn good reason to doubt it. You are right, words are powerful. And right now, trying to get someone on this planet who can fix me enough to get rid of my depersonalization is damn impossible because the internet is flooded with people who are making shit up so they can 'fit in'.

So yeah. You can go ahead and deal with that. I live in Vancouver, BC, Canada. I have been waiting 5 months to get in to see a medical professional to deal with my bipolar. Go ahead and tell me that all of the special fucking snowflakes need help.

There is a difference between passing judgement on strangers and using medical science to back things. What, do crystals work because so many people claim they do? Did the prevalence of gluten sensitivity suddenly skyrocket overnight? You know, that testable condition that people can prove with absolute certainty? How about acupuncture, is it just 'not mainstream science'? You know what happens when something is proven to work? IT IS SCIENCE. Passing judgement has nothing to do with this. Actually trying to help people who need help has EVERYTHING to do with this.

But then again, you seem to want to be able to tell people that everyone can be whatever they want just because they say so, right? We should just entirely do away with any sort of medical supervision when it comes to HRT, because clearly every single trans person knows far better than people who have trained in pharmacology and psychology for their entire lives, yeah?

In summary: Screw you. Those special snowflakes can define themselves how they want, but they will just end up fucking screwing people who need actual help. I have NEVER said that everyone is the same, nor implied it. In fact, in the comments of the last two pages, I have EXPLICITELY STATED that some people knew early and some knew late. And that not everyone felt the same or dealt with it the same. Over the course of this I have made it absolutely clear that each person has their own narrative and it is up to them to define themselves. You however, you decided to step up and start defending people by ATTACKING ME. And you know what really sticks out in this? I didn't say that having a mental illness like bipolar makes me a good judge. I never claimed that ability. I said that a real psychiatrist is the only one who can make that judgement.

Fuck right off. You can attack me all you want, but next time at least bring some fucking ammo to the fight.

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January 3rd, 2016, 9:32 pm

Fox (Guest)

You seem to be a very angry person. I'm sorry if you felt attacked, but I stated how I feel about a certain phrase and you are now swearing at me. I wish you all the best.

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January 3rd, 2016, 9:44 pm

GreenKrog

@Fox; I'm not an angry person. I'm a dying person who can't get help because people make spurious claims with no backing.
You decided to attack me based on my words, I have decided to return fire based on yours. That is how conversation works. If you wish me all the best, maybe you would take stock of things and make a cogent argument instead of walking away.

Special snowflake refers to those who claim multiple conditions without any reason to so that they can list all the things wrong with them. They gather labels instead of growing as a person and getting accomplishments that they should be proud of.

You aren't sorry that I felt attacked, otherwise you would defend your statement based on what I said. I am happy to retract my statement if you are able to back up your reasoning beyond 'well it makes me feel bad', or worse, 'well it makes some people feel bad'.
If you wished me all the best you would actually stand up to me instead of making an ad homonim attack about my approach.

Contrary to what you may think, claiming mental illness when there is none, or claiming transgenderism when there is none, WILL cause problems. It causes people who need help to not receive it. You want to wish me the best? They help eliminate those who are special snowflakes. Help this world be a better place by moving forward with out mental health system. Help fight oppression where it actually exists instead of in the falsehood annals that are being highlighted in media. Help those who need a champion get it, instead of the abstractions of our society getting attention while burying the things that need to be dealt with. Will you do that? Somehow, I get the feeling that arguing with a nobody web comic artist is a fuck of a lot easier than trying to help someone who was raped get legal help. I suppose I don't know you, and you might indeed be a lawyer who does that for a living. Then again, I have my sneaking suspicion that you have never spent the night trying to keep a transgender person alive when all they want to do is kill themselves, knowing that if you sleep they will end their own lives. Words have meaning according to you. And yet your words are broad, sweeping, and useless.

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January 3rd, 2016, 9:54 pm

Guest

I'm walking away because you don't seem to want a conversation, you seem to want an enemy. For the record, those things you asked me if I understand, yes I do, I have been failed by medical professionals and mental health services, I have lived through dissociation and trauma and rape but I don't need to defend myself to you. I'm sorry your life is horribly difficult, but I'm not going to be a target for the feelings you have about your situation. I hope you get the help you need.

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January 3rd, 2016, 10:08 pm

GreenKrog

I hope you can then understand what having a real problem means compared to those who claim to have that problem. I'm advocating for people like you who have real issues that need real help, but get co-opted by special snowflakes who want to claim a bunch of shit that isn't true. If you think that people who claim 'mental rape' when someone looks at them is anywhere even remotely close to what happened to you (and a much lesser extent, how close I got) and to me, then yes, you are the enemy of actually helping people who need help. If you know how terrifying it is to watch yourself lose contact with all of reality because you can't cope, then how exactly can you defend people who claim their 'alter is fronting'?

Let me ask you this, because it is a summary of everything with special snowflakes;
Do you think otherkin have a real condition where they truly believe that they are an animal trapped in a humans body?
Please let me know. Because it is the summation of everything in this thread.

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January 3rd, 2016, 10:28 pm

Fox (Guest)

I think I can't tell someone else what they have or haven't been through. I think you cannot compare pain. I think that otherkin are people and I'm not qualified to tell them who they are any more than they get to decide if I'm a man. I don't read minds, I'm an activist not a doctor so I'm not qualified to make any decision about who someone is. It doesn't matter if I get what someone else is going through or how they identify because it's real to them. I'm a man and no one can tell me otherwise. I'm not going to tell someone they aren't an interstellar hedgehog because I can't prove definitively with any test what they are inside anymore than a test can prove I'm a man. Do you know your chromasomes, I don't know mine, do you define yourself as a woman because you got a blood test or genetic test or is it just who you are inside?

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January 3rd, 2016, 10:39 pm

GreenKrog

So you do believe that a person can genuinely believe they are an interstellar hedgehog and they aren't making it up in their minds. So they should have access to the medical system, both physical and mental, to transition to their animal form.

That is all I needed to know. We are done here. You win. I am beaten.

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January 4th, 2016, 9:40 pm

Darkhorse (Guest)

Uh lady, I never met an otherkin who wanted to do anything but wear a costume or accessories and they didn't think they needed mental help, logical fallacy much lol. It's like that whole trans is a mental illness argument, dumb.

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